Anonymous discussion · Need to talk
The person who got promoted today has just asked me “can you quickly check this
The person who got promoted today has just asked me “can you quickly check this?” for tomorrow’s client presentation. I am sitting with her deck open and my resume open in the next tab. My tea is cold. Very normal evening otherwise. She is not a bad person. I actually like working with her and she did not make the decision. But she will present it with the new title, while I am expected to support the meeting and fix whatever needs fixing. I want the presentation to go well. I also want, just for once, not to quietly make the promoted person’s work better after being passed over. This has been building for almost a year. I handled a difficult release, trained people, stayed late during escalations. My manager kept saying delivery and visibility would put me in line. The appraisal feedback was positive but vague. I kept postponing the direct conversation because I did not want to sound entitled. Now I am wondering if I was just making it easy for them. My husband asked whether I really want to leave or whether I only want them to notice me here. Both, I think. But we have a home loan, so resigning dramatically is not an option. Also part of me wants the company to regret losing me, which is not exactly a career plan. Should I review the presentation properly tonight, then ask my manager for a concrete promotion path? Or limit my help and say I cannot keep doing higher-level work without recognition? People who have been passed over, what did you do? I don’t want to punish the wrong person, but I also don’t want to automatically be dependable support for another appraisal cycle.