Anonymous discussion · Need to talk
The training confirmation message is pinned above my grocery list and I keep opening both together
The training confirmation message is pinned above my grocery list and I keep opening both together. Very stupid, but somehow this is my whole week now. My MIL said relatives are coming for two nights next weekend and asked me to manage breakfast, lunch, tea and my child’s routine. My SIL called also, saying everyone is asking because I am at home more than others. I said yes before mentioning that I have a short training shift during the same time. This is not even the first time. Last year I left a short course when guests came and childcare automatically became my responsibility. I have been talking about restarting work for almost a year, but whenever I mention fixed hours I soften it by saying I can adjust. My husband saw the message and asked why I agreed again. I had no answer. I am angry that everyone treats my time as available, but honestly I also say yes to avoid the immediate argument and then feel angry later. If he speaks to his mother, I feel guilty and exposed, like I made him fight with his family. I need to confirm tomorrow morning. Has anyone managed to say, “I can help with some things, but I cannot manage the whole visit,” after already agreeing? What words did you use? I don’t want this to become a big disrespect issue, but I also don’t want to withdraw from every opportunity and then call it family adjustment.